The TERF practice of de-transitioning transgender women is a dangerous and potentially deadly ideology. It is often carried out without medically trained personal present in isolated locations the same as gay conversion ‘therapy’ used to be.
Detransitioning is built on falsehoods and lies. It’s not meant to benefit anyone but TERFs who propagate this ideology. It’s purposefully deceitful drawing countless innocent lives into its sea of insanity. It is a means to an end, to inflict harm on Transgender women, nothing more, nothing less.
Why do this to us?
TERFs, (Transgender Exclusionary Radical Feminists) and assorted right-wing politicos and religious cultists.
They seek out those of us who found our true selves in our gender before transitioning. This is no crime, transition is the process of consciously evolving into more than we were the day before. Think Barrack Obama and President Biden.
But curiously, TERFs (ala J.K. Rowling) only seek out Female to Male (FTM) transitioning people. TERF’s believe that FTM people are murdered by trans women if they live comfortably in their authentic gender.
Bizarro, right? Think Trump hate and ideology.
These people isolate trans masculine people from mainstream society and teach them that they will be forgiven for any previous indiscretions If only they follow their directions. If successful, they call their newfound apostates “detransitioners” and then use this notoriety as a weapon of war to attack our community.
But this doesn’t always work as the TERF’s plan. Occasional an individual rejects TERF indoctrination and escapes suicidal idolization.
Ky Schevers who for years lived in isolation at a TERF detrans installation wrote..
Healing from the Past
I keep thinking back on what my life was like when I was at my most fanatical. I was working on a farm in Oregon. I didn’t know anyone in the area. I was very depressed and hated myself. I felt like getting drunk all the time but I was trying not to drink and was mostly successful with that. I only had to do a few hours of work a day in exchange for room and board, so I had lots of free time. I ended up spending a lot of it online.
- “I keep wondering why I turned to transphobic radical feminist ideology, why I helped create a weird “ex-trans” detrans subculture, why I did a lot of things that seem pretty strange now. “
Transphobia in the Detrans Women’s Community
During my time as a detrans woman, I said and did many things that I now see as harmful and transphobic. At the time, I thought I was acting in accordance with feminism and working in the best interest of transmasculine people. In my mind I was trying to help people, I would never have acted as I did if I thought I was doing harm. Nonetheless, my motivations do not cancel out the harm of my actions, nor do they excuse them.
Confessions of a Former “Crypto-TERF”
Dishonesty was normalized in the radical feminist detrans women’s community. While some of us were more upfront with our views than others, most of us hid what we really thought from many of our friends and acquaintances. We thought they were too steeped in patriarchal culture or taken in by “trans ideology” to understand our views. If people did show any sign of being receptive to our beliefs, we would share what we thought they would find acceptable but hold back anything they would find too extreme or offensive. …
Working Towards Acceptance
When I detransitioned, I believed that I’d finally figured out what I was and was in the process of solving my gender issues once and for all. I didn’t think I’d be hit with intense doubts four-five years in. It was shocking but at the same time unsurprising. I’d struggled with having complicated gender feelings in the past and had long wished that my sense of gender was more stable and simple. So while I hadn’t expected these feelings to come back, I wasn’t totally surprised when they did because this fit with past patterns. I’d tried several times to make my gender less complex and ultimately failed each time. This attempt had just taken a lot longer to fall through, and while devastating, forced me to accept my genderweirdness in all its complexity and chaos.
Ky Schevers breaks free of TERF detrans ideology
Processing how other people had hurt me in the past for being a dyke and a genderfreak was helpful but casting aside the trans parts of myself was not. But I thought I had to do that to heal and claim a dyke identity. I didn’t. I can be a dyke and still be trans. I rejected being trans because I hated myself, I hated that part of myself. I wasn’t overcoming a dysfunctional coping mechanism, I was denying a part of myself. Treating being trans as a delusion or false consciousness made me more dissociated, not less. Not surprisingly, I suffered from boughts of extreme depression during that time, feeling horrible about my transition and time spent living as a trans person.
At the moment, I don’t feel particularly good about the time I spent detransitioning. I was suffering and trying out something that I thought would help. I feel a huge sense of loss. I do regret detransitioning. I don’t regret coming out as a dyke. I was a person trying to figure out what I was. I regret falling for transphobic ideas. I regret that so much. I regret turning against myself and other trans people.
Being trans isn’t about believing in any particular theory about how sex and gender works, it’s not about being a member of a particular subculture, using certain words, having particular politics. For me, it’s about lived experience, about navigating the world as a genderweirdo with a history of medical transition. It’s about struggling with gender dysphoria and experiencing myself as a female man. It’s about feeling like both a woman and a man and different from women and men at the same time.
Today, as we can see, Schevers has recanted this view, writes Evan Urquhart at Slate. “According to her, like the ex-gays of the 1990s and 2000s—many of whom claimed they “overcame” their sexuality after religious conversion, only to reaffirm it later—some detransitioned people still struggle in private against feelings of gender dysphoria that they can never fully suppress. “It’s very similar to ex-gay communities where there’s a story out there that people ‘change’ and it’s great and everything,” she told me. “No one really changes. They learn to keep their desires under control.”
“Detransitioners may be a small group—even the highest estimates are in the hundreds, compared with an estimated number of transgender-identified people in the low millions—but they have been influential in pushing their denial that trans identity is real. Publicly, detransitioners disavow not only their individual transition histories but also the fact that transition helps trans people worldwide to live comfortably in their own skin. Although a few men also identify as detransitioned, most of the community congregates in sex-exclusive online forums for detransitioned women only. They believe gender dysphoria is common among women and disappears when they learn to love and accept their female bodies.”
Welcome back to reality Ky! You do you “a transmasculine butch dyke, genderqueer, something like that,” and I’ll do me (trans pansexual woman formally identifying as genderqueer), and we all live peacefully
So anyway how do TERFs know how to hurt us to the fifth degree? They have walked the earth as long as we have. A little history told in part from the first-person perspective.
Being transgender is widely seen as a death sentence. But denying our true selves kills us anyway.
So begins groundhog day.
For those about to rock.
We begin our Friday evening going to thrift stores confidently purchasing our attire. Then dressed, we venture out skills lacking miserably, hopefully tragically seeking acceptance by every stranger we see.
Sunday, the realization of our folly hits like a ton of bricks which inevitably leads to purging.
Purging is for many gender-expansive individuals the most dreadful thing. It comes in the early days of transition when we are most vulnerable. It begins when a lightning bolt strikes and panic ensues realizing that perhaps a friend or two or an employer saw you when you have dressed authentically.
So you throw your clothes into a dumpster in some remote location and a feeling of assuredness fills you with the knowledge perhaps you weren’t seen and you can proceed with your life “normally”.
And Monday we go about our business as if nothing extraordinary happened. Then a few weeks later groundhog day begins again.
Every transgender person has experienced this to some degree. We have all fought for our right to live authentically and like gay people, we can’t change our stripes.
If only TERFs and those assorted right-wing politicos and religious cultists would agree we could live in harmony.
It’s easy. You be you and I’ll be me.