A video went viral of Maurice Willoughby, a 20-year-old Philidelphia cisgender black man being heckled relentlessly by contemporaries on a city street. Willougby reacted passionately, at times nearly coming to blows with the antagonists who accused him of being gay, in the crudest way, because of his relationship with Faith Palmer, his transgender girlfriend.
According to multiple news and blog sites, Maurice “Reese Him Daddie” as he was known on Facebook ended his life by suicide yesterday.
When a man is confident & secure enough to openly love a trans woman; this is the bullying and harassment he gets. When trans attracted men kill us; it’s out of fear that this will happen to them if they are outed. Reese didn’t kill his girlfriend; he killed himself instead. #RIP pic.twitter.com/P4el3duZGZ
— Ashlee Marie Preston (@AshleeMPreston) August 20, 2019
Friends say a lot of the bullying stemmed from the fact that he was so open about it and was simply living his life in his truth. According to aazios Resse’s last words before he died was this about his girlfriend:
“Y’all can say whatever about faith I really don’t care if she not passable I don’t care if she wasn’t born a woman she is a woman to me & I love her flaws that’s what makes her faith if you heard her story it’s motivating….. I’m happy you should be happy for me”
Faith posted on FaceBook this morning lovingly eulogizing her brave warrior.
“No matter wat ☝?I know everything bae Reese Him Daddie and I’m goin make sure your story is told and the right way fuck da clout chasing cause it happened just as you said nobody was goin to hear you or us for that matter until it got to level 10 you was my everything until those pills took total control and took you away ! All he wanted was for us to win as we battled all his mental demons but I got left being the only one tryin to get help cause he gave up hope as my friends and family and his grandma tried to help and keep me alive while I tried to save him before this point HE WASNT SCARED OF ANYONE SO HE FOUGHT BACK FOR US ! HE WANTED TO TELL HIS STORY THRU HIS MUSIC AND NOW I GOTTA TELL IT ? BAE YOU WILL NEVER DIE TO ME AND I ALWAYS KEEP MY PROMISE ! WE LOVED EACH OTHER TO DEATH WE FOUGHT PEOPLE TOGETHER ITS DEEPER THEM HIM BEING BULLIED AND I HAVE ALL THE PROOF AND AGAIN “HIS” STORY WILL BE HEARD NOT YALL MADE UP SHIT ! I STILL HAVE HIS MESSAGES AND VOICEMAILS CAUSE WE TALKED ALWAY UP UNTIL I RAN TO NEW YORK TO WAIT FOR OUR COURT DAT ON THE 20th of this month and he though in his mind no matter wat I said he thought I wasnt comin back wat was I suppose to do I know he was goin to take both of us cause he said thats how much he loved me but I knew it was the pills talkin not him I MEAN COME ON HE HAD MY GOVERNMENT TATTED ACROSS HIS FOREHEAD ?”
There is an a lot of stigma attached to those who form intimate relationships with transgender people.
Am I Fetishizing Trans Women as a Cis Guy Who Seeks Them Out for Sex?https://t.co/NtxRRaqt09
— planetransgender (@planetrans) August 21, 2019
Many trans people including myself are quick to dehumanize these relations knowing full well this increases the anguish felt by those who are romanticly involved. I just deleted a tweet mocking one such relationship.
For this, I apologize deeply. I will seek to be a better person.
And I can’t help but point out that in writing about transgender murders the past twenty years, most black trans women are killed by black men. We all have a long way to grow.
Dearest Faith, I admire you. Your story will be told.
R.I.P. Reese Him Daddie